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Just kidding bro

Maybe putting the word 'stealing' there wasn't right? It seems to have stuck into you guys' mind and started to generalize me without thinking rationally. I applaud the person who have thought of the girl being unhappy though.

Exactly what is happening. This girl is pretty close to me. I don't want to see her like this. They are always having fights.

The thought of her being easy if I do get together with her have also crossed my mind. I have to think about that a lot more.

Also, to those that said, 'think about when you're in the guy's position' or something close to that, if I did, then when I realize that I'm only hurting the person I loved, I'd either change or let her go to stop her hurting.

We were off to a bad start, I know, but I only want what's best for her. I can't confront the guy because, he and his friends are S-class douchebags. I also obviously have feelings for her because I want to be the guy who makes her feel special and appreciated. NOT anyone else.

Sorry for the generalization bro. But I'll ask you straight. At this point in time, what can you do? Aside from being her shoulder to cry on that is.

And if it's true that here BF and his buddies are S-class douchebags, then you're threading dangerous waters there buddy. It's like you're asking for trouble.

Best course of action if you ask me is to play the waiting game... Of course, that itself is a gambit..

That's a tough one... @.@
Sad to say you can't do anything about it. If you make her realize that their ship is sinking, and convince her to break it off, then you are bound to be hunted by those s-class douchebags.
On the other hand, seeing her like that and not doing anything, that's gotta hurt.

Take the "bestfriend" route then? The way I see it, there is no other choice.

So I want to start off first as friends with this girl I like, problem being, she has other male friends, possibly ones who know her better more than me.

I know, it's still too early to give up, but what can I do to have an advantage like that?

Spend a bit more time hanging out with her and getting to know her... and watch out for the friendzone...

Those kinds of situations are the exception to the bro code. If she's unhappy with him, then that's your opwn door. Just make sure SHE dumps him before you start dating.

So how do we avoid this dreaded zone, oh your manliness?

Indeed, teach us, your Manliness, for I have fallen into the friendzone once before!

And me as well, numerous times.

But anyway, thanks for your answers. Love's a risky game but I don't think I'm ready to take on these bags of flesh.

This post has been edited by RollingGuy on Jan 13 2013, 07:33 AM

I'm the wrong person to answer that question... I always got friendzoned for the last couple of years...

Rotary, why not get to know her without going in too deep? When you feel like you know about her just right, ask her out?

Nothing like secrets and her past, those are either best friend or lover topics. Just enough like her hobbies, interests, likes, dislike, types, etc.

Just what you need to know how you can make her fall for you. That's what I did with my ex.

Depends if the bf's a gangster, you gotta be from a family of more powerful gangsters.

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Post for tonight...
She's SINGLE!!!

There's your window! Take the shot bro!

Weeeeeeeeeeeeeee

This post has been edited by Lonewolf on Jan 14 2013, 04:59 AM

Congratulations on the news brother and good luck

This post is a very sensitive issue for me, so please be gentle. I lost my childhood best friend in 2011, after 15 years of friendship. He had been there for me and I tried as best I could to do the same. Fast forward 15 years, and out of the blue, he decides he doesn't want me around anymore. I won't go into details, but it had to do with a girl from across the country. I will admit I'd give him shit about it because she was 3 years younger than him and they met online. But it was harmless, or so I thought Now, 2 years later since I last saw him, I find out he's been accepted to a University across the country. Here's my dillema. I miss him. Don't care how homo that sounds, I would've taken a bullet for him, he was closer to a brother than my own brother for f**k sake. All I want to do, is set things right, appologize if I have to, but I don't want to be another reason he's leaving the west coast. What is your opinions on this?

I understand this is a difficult situation for you. Obviously I'm not in your shoes so I can't hope to feel the same pain or know how yours is unique. I can only offer advice based on a similar situation and tell you that if your friend no longer wants to be your friend for whatever reason he may have, then you'll be agonizing over something you can't control. It's his life ultimately and while his decisions may be painful, they are ultimately his to make. Now we don't know if your friend intends to cut ties with you so- You should let your friend know how you feel in a way that isn't emotionally charged (I know that's gonna be hard). Then at least you will know what their frame of mind is like. Knowledge is power. You can't attack a situation if you don't have data.

Thank you for the advice J. I'm gonna keep thinking, maybe this damn brain will come up with something.

In the meantime bro, keep yourself busy and productive until you guys get the chance to clear things up. No sense in spending time staying ticked or saddened on something that you can't really do much at the moment.

At what point does one get fed up with seeing too many beautiful women and just go 'f**kit', get an assload of courage and ask a stranger out?

When one wants change bad enough brother.

So I have this unknown feeling right now. It might be jealousy, though.

How do I deal with it? I thought doing TAs would help me do so.

Acknowledge that feeling... and then you keep yourself busy until it goes away... or you find another girl